"YOU'RE APPROVED"

                                       

                                                 Why Self-Validation is Important

 

As humans, we like nothing more than hearing the word approved, whether it’s credit-related, relationships, or that job you always wanted.

However, often, our expectations and opinions of ourselves seem less worthy when it comes to self-approval.

How do you measure worth? Or better still, how does the world measure worth? Well, there’s much speculation as to how that’s done.

There is no visible scale to measure how you add up from one point to the next.  No popular polls and opinions qualified to judge the measure of a man or woman.

What matters most is how you see yourself. But, if you don’t believe or fail to know your self-worth, how do you expect others to see what you can’t about yourself?

A few years ago, Beyonce had a hit song entitled Ego, and the lyrics are: “it’s too big, too wide, too strong, it won’t fit, it’s too much, it’s too tough. He talk like this ‘cause he can back it up.”

Like that song, it takes an individual who has stock in their identity to think so highly of themselves, regardless of if it’s a song or not.

The point is you must believe that you’re capable, that you can tell a mountain to get out of your way if your faith is strong enough.

This strength doesn’t come from having a big ego but self-awareness through validation: self-love and personal value.

When you appreciate who you are as an individual, you don’t need the permission of others to validate you.

Understand, we all like to be praised but are we worthy of that esteem on such a grand level? It’s typical to seek adulations to feel affirmation when we accomplish anything because it makes us feel good and worthy.

Now, wouldn’t you like to feel that way all the time simply because you know who you are as a person and your capabilities?

Sure you do. And why self-validation is so critical to the human psyche.   But when outside admirations are our only source, that well can dry pretty fast. Not only that, it goes back to my first mentioned principle, don’t allow others to determine your worth.

When we learn to encourage ourselves and acknowledge our strengths, we become better equipped to analyze who we are as individuals without any feedback from an outside source.