“Can’t We All Just Get Along?”

                 

 

Book Envy: How to Deal

 

As writers, we all have our own unique styles—our voice, our rhythm, our way of putting thoughts onto the page. Yet even with those differences, there are still surprising similarities that sometimes spark envy. But why is that? Why can’t we all get along when there is plenty of room at the table for everyone?

 

The truth is, writing is not a competition. Someone else’s success does not erase yours. In fact, the beauty of storytelling is that no two people can ever tell the same story the same way. That’s something worth celebrating.

 

Still, let’s be honest: envy happens. Sometimes, the hardest place to experience it is close to home—maybe from people in your own circle who haven’t written a book themselves, yet feel threatened by your achievement. Instead of cheering you on, they distance themselves, unable to celebrate you.

 

The reality is that every one of us carries that tiny seed of envy inside. But here’s the key: we can’t allow it to take root and grow into something bigger, something toxic. Left unchecked, envy can rob us of joy, strain our relationships, and even block our own creativity and blessings.

 

So how do we deal with book envy—whether we feel it or face it?

       1.    Shift the perspective. Someone else’s success isn’t your failure. Their achievement shows what’s possible when you don’t take no for an answer and focus on what you want.

       2.    Celebrate differences. Your style, your voice, and your message are yours alone. No one can duplicate that.

       3.    Practice gratitude. Focus on your own wins, no matter how small, instead of comparing them to someone else’s.

       4.    Cheer for others. Genuine support builds community—and when your moment comes, you’ll want the same in return.

       5. Listen, Like, and Share: Don’t ignore those posts and reels that promote and shine a light on other authors. You may be tempted to scroll past them, but acknowledging them shows you’re a willing participant in their success and future.

 

At the end of the day, there’s room for all of us. Our stories, our experiences, our voices—they each add something valuable to the literary table. Instead of competing, let’s commit to lifting each other up. Because when one of us rises, it doesn’t diminish the rest—it inspires us all to keep going.